I hope I get that job, I hope I can find a four-leaf clover, I hope she says yes. That is an interesting word, isn’t it? HOPE. What is it that gives you hope or yet another question may be why do we have hope while others appear hopeless?
For many, Hope comes from their past experiences or from their religious experiences or knowledge. Others may get their hope simply by being born optimistic. But the sad fact is that without hope people fail to progress at their endeavors. Where there is no hope, there is no success. When hope is absent so is the heart. What can we do when we feel hopeless?
At times in my own life when hope seemed so far away, I would begin to remember the times that I had success and the events where I had overcome the obstacles. As humans we are elements of our habits and we often find ourselves going back to the same place we were before when we made similar decisions. We choose the same path. Do you know anyone that you could say, they are so lucky or maybe you could say everything that he touches is a success? Maybe just maybe that person is in the habit of making the right choices. So, the first thing we must do to grab hold of that hope is to learn to make the right choices.
Emotional choice is where we often follow our wish and want and we get in a hurry with our decisions. We must weigh out our decisions and consider the future for the very best that we can, in order to see those potential problems. When we do this maybe we can adjust the path to avoid the problems to come. So, the first step in having that hope is to make better choices in the beginning.
Hope is the challenge point in our mind where we see immediate success with little to no effort. When hope involves other people, they are wanting the best outcome for themselves and they may make a decision that affects us. We should get to the point that our hope is not just for us but is also the best outcome for others. Hope means helping the other person also. I gave a speech one time and used HOPE as an acronym for Help Our People Excel. I used the benefit of helping others first to show how we increase our own hope.
Hope is an actual sense of belief that the situation will get better or have a success. There is a fine line in our thinking process when things are uncertain that we are negative or positive. We can be victims or victors, we can be hopeless or hopeful. I want to coach you on the power of positive speaking for yourself in this situation. I want you to begin by making a list. You can do this in your mind but I want you to do this on an actual piece of paper. Maybe all you have is a napkin but the important thing is that you write down a list of your past similar success right now and don’t delay.
The list may look like this: #1, when I discovered I was overdrawn on my bank account several years ago, I called the bank and made an appointment. #2, I made a list then of what my payments were and what I expected to pay out over the next few months. #3, I also made a list of the things that I could cut out to make my budget better. Then after I got started with my list, it started to flow and soon I had found a way to come out of the financial rut that I was in. There was another time when I was applying for a job and feeling a little self-doubt, I made a list of the skills that I had acquired over the years and soon I gained the hope needed to go into that interview and nail the job to the wall.
What about the hope for a loved one to overcome cancer or even for yourself? Here the factor is first and foremost, Love and Encouragement. When people feel they are loved, their hope increases and when encouragement is received, it increases the normal dopamine and oxytocin in your bodies which bring about feeling well and allows the natural immunity process to do its job. Often when the Doctors offer a ray of hope and the family backs up that hope, the healing takes place.
Having that attitude that I will overcome is not limited to health or wealth or success. When we learn to be positive and say the positive things out loud we are giving that encouragement to ourselves.
The words we speak can give life and they can give death. What if you were the child that overheard your relative say these words, “she will never amount to anything”. I heard of a father that would ridicule his child when that child couldn’t spell a word and the father would say, “you will never be able to spell.” That young child grew up with an amazing attitude toward others but lacked the confidence to spell.
How do we build hope? We build up the person who has that hope within them. Learn to be an encourager and give good honest and relative encouragement without overstating the facts.
Oscar Wilde is quoted as saying, “Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result.” With this in mind we have to set the conditions right for those who lack hope. We have to encourage, build up, show care and trust. Finally we must give them some of our hope. Have a You Can attitude and being sincere while doing it. Set them up for success not failure. Have you ever planted a garden, didn’t you first prepare the soil, add the plant and then water and add fertilizer? Each person is at a different stage of hope. Some need deep soil tilling while others need a drink of cool water during the heat of the day. Regardless, it is you who is there to offer what the other needs. What an opportunity you have to change the world with your words and actions.
I often quote in my speaking events that there are four words that changed my life forever. Even though I am a very positive person there have been times in my life where I had shallow hope. During one of these times I had several people to quote these four words and I acknowledge these four words that healed my circumstance. “I believe in you.” When you are sincere and speak these words, you can expect lives to change, you can expect gray skies to turn blue, you can expect great results.
I challenge each of you to learn to speak healing words to yourself and others. Set the conditions and expect the results. ThePowerOfPositiveSpeaking.com