Master Your Fear Master Your Future

Posted by Eddie Kilbourne on Monday, 3 February 2020


Fear Can’t Hurt You, When You’re a Child of God

A little boy was afraid of dark. One night his mother told him to go out to the back porch and bring her the broom. The little boy turned to his mother and said, “Mama, I don’t want to go out there. It’s dark.”
The mother smiled reassuringly at her son. “You don’t have to be afraid of the dark,” she explained. “Jesus is out there, He’ll look after you and protect you.”
The little boy looked at his mother real hard and asked,
“Are you sure he’s out there?”
“Yes, I’m sure . He is everywhere, and he is always ready to help you when you need him.” she said.
The little boy thought about that for a minute and then went to the back door and cracked it a little. Peering out into the darkness, he called,
“Jesus, Jesus……? If you’re out there, would you please hand me the broom?”


What are you Afraid of ?

We are born with only two innate fears; the fear of falling and the fear of surprises such as bright lights or loud sounds. All other fears we learn through hunger, joy or pain.


The Cigarette Lighter

I remember one time when I was very young, mom had ran an errand to town and just for a minute she told me to wait in the car and she would be right back. Back in the day it wasn’t so bad to leave your kid in the car for a minute because the windows were always down, we didn’t have air conditioning. I was sitting there and I pushed in the cigarette lighter.
For you young folks it was a small metal thing that had coils of wire on the inside and when you pushed it in, it heated up and when it popped out it was hot.

I was maybe 8 or 9 years old and curious about a lot of things.
I wasn’t afraid of that cigarette lighter it had never caused me pain so I pushed it in and waited. In about 20 seconds it popped out and I reached for it and turned it around to see what had happened. Folks it was so pretty and bright and glowing orange light.

So what do you think a curious boy would do? You’re right, I held it up and stuck my thumb to it. Hot Dog, it was hot. My thumb went immediately to my mouth and it was crispy dry with blister already. I rocked back and forth and did the pain dance right there in that seat. It hurt, and there was nothing that I could do to get that pain to stop and then here came my mom. I never told her what happened but I kept my thumb in my mouth all the way home and then carried a cup of water around for the rest of the evening with my thumb in it. Folks, I can tell you to this day, I am afraid of a orange glowing cigarette lighter. It caused some pain, don’t bring it near me.

That came from a negative, hurting experience didn’t it.

Many of our fears are self made and come from the recesses of our minds.

The Dentist
When I was young I use to go to a dentist who was pretty rough with me and he hurt me a few times and when I got a little older it was years before I went back to a dentist. Later when I did go, I explained to my new dentist about my fears and he was great to take every precaution to not cause me any pain or anxiety. I never saw a dental needle and he gave me that laughing gas and he was so kind. I had let the fear of my youth take root in my mind. That fear almost got the best of me.

What are you Afraid of ?

Friends, my oldest son has a fear of clowns.

I have a cousin who is over 6′ tall and he is a big man but he is afraid of butterflies.

The research says that most fears are the result of a past bad experience and your body and mind are already conditioned to fight that fear with a way to avoid it.

My largest fear in my life use to be the fear of public speaking. That is the number one fear of 75% of all individuals. #2-heights, #3-bugs or snakes.
The list goes on but this shows that everybody has a fear.
Fears are real to those that have them, and we have to go through things.
They aren’t funny and we should Never laugh or take advantage of someone with a Fear.

The question is how do we face our fears and conquer them?

My Mentor Zig Ziglar says FEAR is an acronym for


And even as the tough guy or tough gal we act to be most of the time, we have FEARS.
Many of our fears are legitimate in life. The fear of being lonely which often is real, or the fear of poor health, or the fear of loss of finances.

The one thing I know is that Christ told us not to Fear in that he would always be with us and never leave us and I know for certain that I find comfort in that.

Fear is first mentioned in the bible in Genesis just after the fall.

Gen 3:9-10
9 And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou?
10 And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.

What were they afraid of? Adam and his wife Eve had just ate from the
Tree of Knowledge of good and evil of which God had commanded them that they should not do. Adam said it, “God, I was naked and was afraid and hid myself.”
You see he was out of connection with God and the fact that he was naked and he now realized this, he felt disconnected from God.
He did what God told him not to.

The Hebrew word for not doing what God tells us is Hattah. It means disconnected from God. It can also mean on the wrong path or as an example it means miss the mark or the goal.
There are many children living in abusive homes. That’s all they have ever known and they think it’s normal. As they get older they adopt this behavior and the cycle begins again. They grew up with a fear of abuse and not many of them break the cycle and they become the abuser.

Bad relationships, where one spouse will abuse the other leads to fear in many ways and many don’t want to leave that relationship because fear of no relationship. God doesn’t want you to be abused as a Child or a Spouse. Speak to someone if that is you.

Fear of just being out in the public or going to the grocery store can actually cripple some people. And though we don’t understand always how this person obtained this fear, it can be REAL to them.

What can we do?  What can we do?

Ps 56:3-4 3 Whenever I am afraid , I will trust in You.
4 In God (I will praise His word), In God I have put my trust;
I will not fear. What can flesh do to me?

When a person becomes a Christian, God gives him or her a new heart and a new mind. The bible tells us to become a new person and to leave our previous character and to take on the Character of God. Often times we may think, I don’t know how to live a life pleasing to God.
In Genesis 15:1, Abraham was afraid and told God “I’m Afraid”, and listen to what God told him.
“Fear not Abram, I am thy shield and they exceedingly great reward.”

Daniel in Chapter 10:10-12 Daniel had prayed for three weeks and he had a fear about him and God spoke and said, “12 Fear not, Daniel: for from the first day that you prayed, I heard you. I have come because of your words.

2 Things God Wants Us To Do
It’s hard not to try to solve our problems ourselves but God wants us to do two things. Number one he wants us to make the right choices in the things that we do on a daily basis and number two he wants us to put our faith in him.
Stand Still and allow him to fight our battles.

Fear takes place in the mind. Think about it folks, when we are afraid we are thinking about that thing. We live and relive the thing and the outcome. Then it becomes worry. We can’t get it off our mind.

In Matthew 6, 25:34 Jesus tells us multiple times, “Do Not Worry”
Therefore I say to you Do Not Worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will wear. Life is more important than these. Look at the birds of the air, they don’t sow or reap or gather into barns yet your heavenly father feeds these.
Are you not more valuable than they?

Three more times Jesus says, “Do not worry, Do not worry, Do not worry.”

Matt 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Maybe it’s not a bad choice that we made, maybe it’s a bad choice that someone else made and it affects us, maybe it’s a health issue that we have no control over and the Doctors tell us they don’t know what to do.
We have to continue to press on with faith and even be that role model for our fellow brothers and sisters and when those times come that the end is near we still profess Christ and his love.

Moses had the same fear that I use to have had which is public speaking.
When God called Moses to do a work for him which was to go into Egypt and tell the Pharaoh to let the Children of Israel go free, this gave Moses such a fear that he told God, “I can’t do that!!”

Exodus 4:10
10 Moses said to the Lord, “Pardon your servant, Lord. I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue.”
11 The Lord said to him, “Who gave human beings their mouths? Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind?Is it not I, the Lord?
12 Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.”


Should Christians never be afraid?

That’s a good question and we still have fears.
I believe what we should do is to pause when we are afraid and talk to God.

Moses and the Red Sea:
Moses had led the Israelites out of bondage and they were fleeing Egypt and they had made it to the Red Sea and they couldn’t get across the water. They didn’t know what to do and God set it up to give them an example of what any one should do when a fear is facing them.

When you have a Great Fear in your life, do what Moses did.

Ex 14:13
13 And Moses said to the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which He will accomplish for you today. And the Egyptians you see today you will never see again.
14 This day the Lord will fight for you, you only need to be still.”


Ps 56:3-4 3 Whenever I am afraid , I will trust in You.
4 In God (I will praise His word), In God I have put my trust;
I will not fear. What can flesh do to me?

But there is a secret that the world needs to hear.

When you open your bible to the book of Romans 8:15 it reads:

Romans 8:15
15 For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.”

That is Hebrew for My Daddy, My Father.

How do we do this in English we simply stop and say,
“My God, My Father, hear me.” Hey God, I need you.

Luke 12:32
32 “Do not fear, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.


Proverbs 3:5-8
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones”

1 Peter 5:7 says “ Cast all your worries on him because he cares for you.”

Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”

Psalm 55:22 – “Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.”

Here is what Jesus said in John 14:1, “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.

 Worry and Fear. These are the result of mans knowledge of Good and Evil.

If there is one thing that I can convince you today it is this. Do all that you can to live right and to treat others the way that you want to be treated. This is the ultimate law of God.

Phil. 4:
5 Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;
7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

(This writing was a Sermon that was delivered at the CornerStone House of Prayer in Big Stone Gap, Virginia on 2-9-2020)

Eddie Kilbourne

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